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As wedding filmmakers who like to tell a couple’s story, the wedding toasts at the reception play a vital role in our filmmaking process. When we reach out to our photographer friends to talk about an upcoming wedding together, the toasts are the one item we highlight as important to us. We take pride in filming them with good lighting and great sound quality, as we know that it makes our Boston wedding films stand out. Making them look and sound good is our job, but saying the right things is traditionally up to the Father of the Bride, Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor. So here are some tips to sounding good and making the best of your time in the wedding spotlight.

Length Matters

The best length for speeches tends to be about 2-3 minutes. I honestly believe a well-spoken father of the bride can extend their speech to 3-5 minutes in an engaging manner. But, at the end of the day, the reception is about eating, drinking and dancing. Therefore, speeches that carry on for too long (especially multiple speeches) only cut into the fun part of the evening. On the flip side, 30-second speeches add little the night’s festivities. If you have been selected to speak on behalf of the bride or groom, you have enough knowledge and background to talk for at least 90 seconds.

It’s Not About You

One of the biggest reasons speeches carry on too long is that speakers talk too much about their relationship with the bride and groom. Opening up a speech with your connection to them is a great way to start, but telling multiple stories about every part of your relationship is a way to lose the audience’s interest. Telling one story that exposes the great character traits of the bride or groom has to offer is a great way to show your connection with them. Remember, it’s a toast, not a roast. Save the long stories and razzing of your friend for the bachelor/bachelorette party or rehearsal dinner where the audience is smaller and more connected to the couple.

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Courtesy Person + Killian Photography

The Most Important Part of the Speech

All great speeches turn the focus onto the couple. That is what the wedding day is all about! We all have a story about the couple. Most often it was when they first met, or the first time you heard about their new boyfriend or girlfriend. There is always that ah-ha moment. Tell the audience about it. And, then talk about why you think the couple works so well together. It’s the feel-good moment of the night. Own it!

Opening and Closing

How do you start and how do you end your toast? That is the easy part. To start, simply introduce yourself. Secondly, it is a respectful gesture to thanks the parents of the couple for the wedding itself and rehearsal dinner, as most often, parents pay for much of the wedding.

To end a good speech, simply toasts the couple. It could be as simple as asking everyone to raise their glass (don’t forget this part) and wishing them a happy, healthy life together. To take it up a notch, connect your ending to the couple. For example, for an Irish Bride, end with an Irish Blessing. For a brother or sister, quote a respected family member.

Write Down Your Plan

There are two ways to approach the speech. The first is to write it out your speech completely, so that each thought is well thought out and delivered to your satisfaction. For others, reading word for word will cramp their style. If you are this type of person, do not wing it! Simply, just make an index card with a list of topics for each part of the toast. Each part of the speech can be delivered off the cuff, but have a plan in place. Then, you won’t forget to thank the parents when you get a touch nervous.

That’s the basics. Two to three solid minutes of content and you’ll be getting congratulations throughout the night. Do you need a template? I love the DIY wedding toast template Malcolm Fraser gives in his article for Huffington Post. And, one last tip, take a deep breathe as you get to the microphone. It will pay big dividends. Cheers!

 

Justice of the Peace Elizabeth Gemelli brings over 20 years of experience with her to every wedding that she officiates. Today, Elizabeth shares a few pieces of advice that she shares with each one of her couples before their wedding day. One has to do with your wedding vows and a second piece of advice is what you need to practice before the wedding ceremony. Take a minute to learn from the sweetest officiant in the area in the latest of a series of tips from the Boston Wedding Group.

Wedding Planning Tip
 

This week’s wedding tip is a simple one that will have your guests talking and feeling a little special on your wedding weekend. Boston Wedding Planner Alexis Eliopoulos O’Mara of Unique Weddings by Alexis provides this week’s Boston Wedding Group tip, which talks about putting together welcome bags for your guests. When you add a little personailty to those welcome bags, your guests will feel a little more connected to you as a couple on your wedding day. We have to give shout outs to Jenny and Geoff LaMarche, as well as Colleen and Dave Ritacco who included their vendors in their welcome bag handouts last year. It’s that little extra touch that just makes you feel good, and always seems to spawn our best creative juices.

 

Today, we’re beginning a new series of video wedding tips for couples to utilize during the wedding planning process. We have tapped into our resources of the Boston Wedding Group to find some of the best planning ideas from some of the most talented and experienced professionals in the industry. Today’s tip comes from Lovelyn Jensen from the Dane Estate at Pine Manor College. If you haven’t been to Dane Estate, it’s a 60-acre property that provides an array of spaces to suit any type of wedding. The venue is suitable for beautiful outdoor weddings, as well as indoor weddings that are surrounded by beautiful architectural accents. Her tip is a fabulous one that many people do not think of when creating their invitations and response cards.

 

 

Anybody who knows us well, knows that we are all about wedding industry education, especially for wedding cinematography and videography. Whether its learning, or sharing information, we like to be a part of it. This month, we were excited to share our thoughts on wedding cinematography with one of the industry leading websites called ProductionHUB.com.

ProductionHUB, which is a resource guide for production in media that includes film, video, broadcast and music, was looking to find out some tips for videographers try to improve their wedding videography skills. We shared some of our views on lighting, storytelling and appearance that we try to practice when filming our Boston wedding films. You can see the article HERE to find out some of our top wedding videography tips.